It’s the 8th of March – International Women’s Day where the world suddenly wakes up with all their love and respect for women. I really don’t get the concept of celebrating these days, there’s nothing that really changes, it’s the same very year. Stop respecting a woman just because it’s women’s day. Your love or respect shouldn’t be restricted to a particular day. Women’s day needs to celebrated every day, without a “specific day” telling you to do so.
8th of March is one such day when the whole world gets obsessed with FEMINISM, EQUAL RIGHTS FOR WOMEN, RESPECT, GIRL POWER and various other things. Don’t get me wrong I am a feminist and believe in equality for women in all ways.
But my question is –
What does Feminism really mean?
Feminism, according to a couple of sources, here’s some definition:
- Google: the advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.
- Wikipedia: Feminism is a range of political movements, ideologies, and social movements that share a common goal: to define, establish and achieve political, economic, personal, and social rights for women.
- Urban Dictionary: advocating social, political, legal, and economic rights for women equal to those of men.
Having said that, all of us have a different meaning and definition to it. However, I feel that these days Feminism is the most misused word ever. Both men and women use it as per their own self-interests.
One of my favourite Feminism quotes-
“Feminism is not a dirty word. It doesn’t mean you hate men or you hate women with tan and nice legs. It means you believe in equality. ” — Kate Nash
When I say that I am a feminist what I really mean is equal rights for both men or women. A man doesn’t need to open the door for me or carry my shopping bags just because I am a woman, I do not require a special coach or a seat on the train, I also do not believe in the whole concept of ‘ladies first.’ How are we EQUAL then? Being a Feminist doesn’t mean that you make yourself powerful as women and demean a man.
Does this really happen?
No! At least not in the Indian Society.
We demand equality with special privileges.
For once FEMINISM does not mean MAN-HATING, it has lone been prevailing and needs to stop.
As we say there are two sides to a coin likewise there is another aspect of feminism as well. Coming from an Indian society the position of women has always taken a back seat no matter how educated we get. I am still looked down upon for wearing the clothes of my choice, for working late at the office or for going out with male friends. I belong to a society where my safety is a huge concern if I am moving out of the house after 6 pm, where the ticking of the clock decides my character, where a daughter-in-law is still not treated equally as a daughter, where a wife has no respect in the eyes of her husband, where the rapists and the acid attackers are still roaming free, where rather than teaching the sons the not to rape the daughters are always taught to be careful.
“Women do not get raped because they weren’t careful enough. Women get raped because someone raped them.” – Jessica Valenti- The Purity Myth
I live in a hypocrite society where the male worship female deities and disregard the females in the family. After all these years of being independent and, educated women in India are still struggling to find their own identity and fighting for their individuality.
A few years back I read a line which said – “A woman in India is neither safe inside a womb nor outside it.” – Annonymous
All I had was tears in my eyes when I read it. Where is Feminism lost now? What happened to Women’s day?
I have always been told by a lot of people that my personality and thoughts come across as way too strong for a woman and that it isn’t ideal for the “SOCIETY.” What, are we living in the 17th century? Honestly, I am not even amused to hear such things. It is a proven fact that the Indian Society (male and certain female) cannot handle a strong female personality.
Yes, it’s International Women’s day.
Yes, we need to empower Women.
So are women really empowered?
What do we do?
Just keep talking. The same S*@# every year…
We are done talking!